Of course, you can have a relationship with a person of any age, but maybe you don’t know what you’re looking for, or you notice the dates that feel most comfortable or promising are with guys that are younger than you.
The following dos and don’ts should give you a better idea how to manage your position in your May-December relationship to your best advantage. One of the main reasons that she’s with you, and not with some stud of her own age, is that younger guys often don’t hit the emotional mark.
They may have the bodies of demigods, but they can also have the emotional maturity of a walnut. Show her how even-headed you are and how readily able you are to talk about your feelings in a calm and responsive manner.
Today's younger men have had the opportunity to grow up seeing these powerful women – it’s been a more regular part of their experience in everyday life.
Because many women work full-time and raise families it enables men who have grown up with this norm to feel less threatened by female success.
I know that men have been on the ‘older woman’ tip for a minute, but if you’re a woman, until you’re actually a cougar taking midday zumba classes and trying to figure out if Medicaid covers boob jobs, being the “older woman” wasn’t exactly on your vision board when it came to leaning in.
It was actually on a birthday of mine, one a few years past 25, that I slept with my first younger man — a co-worker I assumed was my age, or a few months younger at best. So quiet, in fact, that when he brought up trying light bondage in bed once, my best friend’s reply to hearing about his request was “He’s said five words to you total, and one of them was handcuffs?!
I’ve never been more acutely aware of my age than on dating apps.
As members of a society that somehow associates infancy with experience and inherent value (or at least, I assume that’s what all those 30 Under 30 lists are for, anyways), the continual upwards scroll of that second digit of my age is nothing more than a painful daily reminder that I’m no longer the youngest in my friend group, work circle, or most bars.
An older man and younger woman relationship is not only one of the most common motifs in dating, it’s also one of the most popular.