If you’re an Asian man, there are some things that you may be doing that aren’t helping you in the dating game.
The pejorative word “Oriental” has been stricken down from printed materials and is avoided in daily speech. Asian men are in the government and politics, they run successful businesses, they are achievers in the field of science and technology, law and medicine.
However, as far as American women of all colors seeing an Asian American man as a preferred dating and marriage partner goes, the state of affairs still leaves a lot to be desired.
The #1 killer of Asian men’s game is what I call the “Asian Poker Face.” Commonly, Asian men have a problem with showing any sort of expression on their face because we’re culturally taught not to be as emotional as others.
When you think you’re being neutral, you’re actually appearing to be sad, angry, or some other negative emotional state.
The men who go down the path of copious dating and selection will disregard any flak that comes their way in the process, and come out winners in the end.
That is a good strategy except that it is not very likely that one could end up with a high quality female partner in the end if one stops his search too early.Then again, the demographics of my clients are probably a bit skewed towards upper-middle class white people.Money quote: The researchers found that most women speed daters said yes (meaning they’d like to see a man again after the four-minute speed date) less often to men of another race than they did to men of their own race. There have been several programs on TV already describing the fact that as an Asian man, you have harder time finding a mate than your Caucasian, African-American or Hispanic counterparts.There have been articles in magazines and newspapers addressing the same problem and describing its causes (and effects). I’m a bit surprised at men’s openness to interracial dating.